“I’ll miss you there, Mommy,” he said, with a sad look in his beautiful eyes and with inverted lips which only accentuated his little puffy cheeks. It broke my heart. Why was I doing this, again? To feed my own selfishness? For MY sanity? So I could get more time to work? So I could… Read More Hard Choices
I really wish wine did it for me. Isn’t wine supposed to help deal with motherhood, if all those memes are to be believed? Nothing really works for me. I don’t smoke. I don’t really drink…now, I like the idea of it and don’t mind an occasional beer or wine, but I am definitely not… Read More The Unspeakable, Spoken: Why is this so tough?
TJ had fever last week. Pretty much all day. It was a fever that started out of nowhere on Thursday evening, lasted all day Friday, give or take a few hours working off of the strength of the medication, and lasted until night time going into Saturday. His fever finally broke on Saturday. As I… Read More Thoughts during the lifecycle of a sick child
The years are short. Enjoy them while they are still little. They are only little once. It gets easier. Sentiments expressed in the sentences above are simmered into the brains of new parents, particularly the primary caregiving parent since the time people find out about the pregnancy. It becomes an anthem… Read More The kids are growing up too fast…ahem…can someone make them grow faster?
As parents of multiple kids know, picking your favorite child is an impossible task. It is just not done. Now you may have a favorite kid in your head but you don’t voice that preference out loud. The famous Indian-Canadian comedian, Russell Peters, however, seems to think he has the perfect solution. He rationalizes it… Read More Giving Kids the Space to Fall
As parents, we rarely expect things in return for all the things we do for our kids. This not-expecting clause, is simply a part of the parent job profile. However, as adults, we do learn to expect some things in life. We take luxuries such as having our own room, our own bed in which… Read More Becoming Unroomed: Becoming a Rolling Stone
I write this with a little bit of embarrassment, a little bit of guilt, and a whole lot of pride in having married so well! My husband is a saint. No, really, he is. Not the card or cape carrying kind but the kind that blends in with everyday folks, just going about his… Read More My Husband works the Second Shift
…that my child is extremely impressionable and that what I do and how I behave absolutely and directly influences what he then does and how he behaves. …that my yelling may seem like a great release for me but may do irreparable damage to his ability to learn the action-consequence-reaction dynamic. …that my throwing things… Read More Will I ever learn…
Whoever said “Cherish every moment with your newborn. These moments don’t last forever” deserves the “Most Cliched Statement of the Parenting World” award, after having battled it out with “Sleep when the baby sleeps” for the top spot. First of all, if you are a new mom and this is your first baby, forget cherishing… Read More Fragile Lives: Fragile Moments – Cherishing the last times
There are a LOT of things I don’t know about raising kids but like most people, I raise them anyway, making mistakes along the way and sometimes, miraculously, just getting a few things right. Therefore, in a twist of sorts, rather than write about what I do and don’t know about raising kids/parenting/mothering, I want… Read More What you don’t know as a parent and a child…
Being a parent invariably makes me nostalgic about my own childhood in the most surreal way. I look at my older child, careless and carefree, frolicking through life without so much of a frown or a grimace on his cherubic face (if you take away the expressions he makes when he has tantrums or just… Read More A Reality that is Stranger than Fiction
It began in the most mundanely boring and predictable way possible. As parents, we started punishing bad behavior with time outs and rewarding good behavior with praises, and even more hugs and kisses than we did usually. Then somehow, I am not sure how or when, we started giving incentives (material objects as presents) randomly… Read More Navigating the delicate waters of rewards and punishment