Just Me and My Son – Part 1

My headline reads like the title of a Little Critter book, doesn’t it? On Monday last week, TJ and I got to spend some time together. Just us. Mother and son. Like we used to before Baby E was born. It was the last session of Music Together (MT) for this quarter. Upon my request,Continue reading “Just Me and My Son – Part 1”

My 2-year-old asked me to “Calm down”

The same energy that works for me professionally, does not quite do it for me, personally. I am not much of a laid back person. I’d like to think I am but I am really not. I just don’t work that way. I get annoyed easily. I lose my patience quicker than you can sayContinue reading “My 2-year-old asked me to “Calm down””

A SAHM’s Conflicted Relationship with Music Together

The cacophony of sounds and squeals drowns every other sound within a short radius of the room. It nearly bursts my ear drums. I should be used to it by now but I am not. I don’t want to be. There is something wonderfully unpredictable about the type of sound that demands the most attentionContinue reading “A SAHM’s Conflicted Relationship with Music Together”

Untitled: Gathering the Pieces of Failure

My most recent pledge to not yell at my son was an epic failure on day 2. Everything was going smoothly until it was time to strap the kids in that monstrosity of a double stroller to take them for a walk. TJ wanted to get out but I really needed that walk because IContinue reading “Untitled: Gathering the Pieces of Failure”

My 8 New Strategies for Disciplining

You know the worst thing about disciplining? It’s not the yelling. It’s not the tears. It’s not even the behavior that elicited disciplining in the first place. Although all of those things are really awful, it is the guilt infused yelling-screaming hangover that hovers around a parent that, in my opinion, is the worst thingContinue reading “My 8 New Strategies for Disciplining”

The Inscrutable Exploratory Missions of a Young Mind

I am trying something new today. Recently, I was thinking about how our kids’ universe is so full of exploration and then… I decided to stop thinking, and actually start writing about it: Here is how my 2 year old explores his little universe and what exploration means to him.

Will I ever learn…

…that my child is extremely impressionable and that what I do and how I behave absolutely and directly influences what he then does and how he behaves. …that my yelling may seem like a great release for me but may do irreparable damage to his ability to learn the action-consequence-reaction dynamic. …that my throwing thingsContinue reading “Will I ever learn…”

A Day out with Thomas the Train

TJ is obsessed with Thomas and Friends but he does not care much for Thomas himself. His favorite engine is Percy. Today, we had the opportunity to go visit Roaring Camp Railroads in Felton, about 45 minutes from San Jose, and enjoy a Day out with Thomas. Of course, a “day” for us with aContinue reading “A Day out with Thomas the Train”

Three amazing things I (re)discovered about my child today

I hung out at San Jose’s Westfield Valley Mall with the kids today and during our time together, I learned to appreciate, respect, and understand my son just a little bit more than I did yesterday.

Our visit to (anywhere) – Part II – Taming my anxieties

For Part I, click here. Okay that taming part – that doesn’t always work. If I ever write an autobiography, I might call it “A work in progress” because I am never done. A personal philosophy that I hold most dear is: (this is an original quote. You will need to cite me if youContinue reading “Our visit to (anywhere) – Part II – Taming my anxieties”

Navigating the delicate waters of rewards and punishment

It began in the most mundanely boring and predictable way possible. As parents, we started punishing bad behavior with time outs and rewarding good behavior with praises, and even more hugs and kisses than we did usually. Then somehow, I am not sure how or when, we started giving incentives (material objects as presents) randomlyContinue reading “Navigating the delicate waters of rewards and punishment”