Lessons from British Mom Bloggers (BMB)


I thought I’ll take a break from writing about my kids and instead write a blog post about blogging. About British moms. Of course I am painting all British Mom Bloggers (BMB) with a broad brush stroke but in the months that I have gotten more engaged with my own blog, I have learned quite a few things about and from British moms and wanted to share my lessons/thoughts.

I am not sure how this happened, but I follow way more BMBs than I do, American, Indian, or moms of other nationalities. Like I said, I honestly don’t know how this happened. My only guess is that the wonderful world of link parties (see #2 below) made me aware of some really awesome moms and they just turned out to be Brits. Just from reading about their lives, I have gained a new appreciation for the sisterhood of moms that exists pan culturally.

SO, here I go…here are 6 things I learned about/from British Mom Bloggers –

1. They believe in community:

I love how BMB (British Mom Bloggers) rally for each other by supporting common causes, their willingness to offer virtual hugs, words of encouragement, and support through their blogs. They all appear to know each other somehow and even if they don’t, which is likely, they are so friendly to each other, that it almost seems like they have known each other forever (perhaps they have but if they haven’t, that is STILL the impression they give – not purposely, because they are also genuine). They guest write for each other, tag each other, follow each other, toast each other, you get it….they are a really strong community of bloggers no matter what part of Britain they live.

2. They love linkys:

I had no idea what linkys were until I chanced upon a few of them through the bloggers I follow. Linkys are a great way to discover new blogs to read, interesting people to follow, get new readers to your own blog, and get more comments on your posts. I usually do about one, sometimes two, a week. I especially love (a) how much I am learning about the lives of British moms through these linkys; (b) how similar the lives of moms are no matter where you live; (c) how wonderfully creative some women are in their writing, illustrations, and other content; (d) how supportive women can indeed be of each other; and (e) simply all the really incredible blogs out there that make for their own genre of writing. Hosting a linky is a lot of work but most of the hosts are awesome. They visit your blog and leave good comments too. Assuming everyone skims over content to find key areas on which to comment, these hosts and some bloggers actually really do leave quality comments and don’t we all want those!

3. They are funny:

Some are haha funny and some are absolutely the right mix of sarcy, tongue-in-cheek, and rib tickling wittiness. They tackle the everyday truths of parenting and especially mothering with dignity and grace while not failing to see the funny in the most stressful of situations (e.g., playdates) and throw ups and schedules that follow their own rhythm and children that follow none. They find the laugh in the mundane and turn it into little cartoons and they tell it like it is with their beautiful accents (yes, I try to read their blogs with a British accent. Okay, no, I don’t but wouldn’t that be cool!?) and tots and toys in tow.

4. They follow good social media etiquette (i.e., they are not annoying):

They don’t direct message you as soon as you start following on Twitter to then like their other pages/accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and whatever new sense of personal adulation exists today. Who doesn’t like followers? If you are building a personal brand that depends exclusively on how many total followers you have in order to calculate how influential you are so that you get all those coveted corporations to send you free stuff, you may be excused for seeking more out of your followers, even though it is excruciatingly annoying. But, guess what? BMBs don’t do that. Yes, their blogs have all their media links and should you like their content, you are free to follow them but they don’t send you unsolicted messages about them. They don’t irritate you to the point of making you want to unfollow them.

5. Their lives are just like mine and yours:

You’d think living in the country of Colin Firth, 007s, everyone’s favorite royalty (I have a complicated relationship with Britain’s royalty given my country’s colonial past but even I will admit I like the non-normal normality that Kate and William try to show the world), Benedict Cumberbatch, Kate Winslet, and one of Bollywood’s favorite countries in which to film, makes all BMB’s lives absolutely fascinating, worthy of a reality show. Not quite. They are normal and that is just perfect. They are just like the rest of us moms, worrying (or not), crying (or not), struggling (or not), judging (or not), about everything related to mothering, parenting, and raising our cherubs. They are our sisters-in-arms or soul sisters from across the continent, no matter what continent you live in.

6. They are really good at marketing/promoting their blogs:

Even newbie BMB have, by my estimate, a large number of readers and followers because they know how to do things right. I started writing my current blog more frequently in 2014 with maybe a post or two in all of 2013 but I really only got actively involved in making this a personal space that matters in June, 2016. My stats ebb and flow and I am yet to figure out how to really market my blog. BMBs, however, have a knack for this that is enviable. I have read so many posts that talk about how within two-three months of starting their blogs, these mom bloggers already had their first sponsored post or product review. That is really enterprising and how they are able to accomplish this is something to learn from, at least for those of us interested in going that route with our blogs. Most of them write strong content that is actually worthy of marketing. Then they promote the posts through linkys (see #2 above) and social media and all of this leads to comments in the 20s and 30s at least.

So there you have it. I enjoy reading others’ posts especially if they relate directly to my own experiences (that is, when I am not kicking myself for not having written the post myself or as creatively) but more so when they don’t and I learn something new. I appreciate good content and unique perspectives and BMB provide a gamut of those reading experiences.

I am also learning a lot from Indian and American bloggers. Watch out for those posts in the future.

Who is/are your favorite bloggers? Why do you follow her/him/them?


Dear Bear and Beany


A former Communication Studies professor turned a somewhat reluctant stay-at-home-mom (SAHM), I blog about my adventures raising two multiracial kids. I write about parenting and living a multicultural Indian-Canadian-American HinJew life with honesty, a few tears, lots of laughter, and gallons of coffee.
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  1. twotinyhands says:

    Suchitra, this made me smile throughout. It’s nice to see it from a different perspective. I’m sure some British Mum Bloggers will read this and think I don’t know how to do that though! I never realised how supportive blogging was until i found my blogging tribe. We have a lot over here. Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

    1. I think you said it right. The sense of community or blogging tribe is so important to feel like you aren’t the only one going through whatever it may be, that there are people out there, even those you have never met, who support you, know what you are going through, and can make your day go better simply by a kind comment or virtual hug. Thanks.

  2. twotinyhands says:

    You should totally read our blogs in a British accent by the way ?

    1. Haha..if only I could do a good one.

  3. Ahh this is lovely to read especially as a British mum blogger myself 🙂 The things we do just seems the norm for us, it’s funny to read how it’s perceived by the rest of the world. And yes we love linkies, I co-host two myself and we do love reading and commenting on everyone who joins in 🙂 x

    1. Wow, you do two links!! How do you have time to do all you do on your blog AND reply to everyone? Hosting is so much work. Hats off to you and all the other hosts. I am really inspired. Thanks for visiting and commenting.

  4. Aww this makes me feel really good as a British mam blogger. I think you’ve summed it up well. I’m a pretty new blogger but have had so much support from other bloggers. It’s a really supportive scene.

    1. It really feels nice to have that support, doesn’t it? It is a strong community we have, of bloggers, Brits or otherwise. Also important to know that it is a give and take. Give support to get support, as with most things in life. I love this world and truly appreciate it.

  5. Aww this made me very proud to be British (which is quite a feat these days)! And especially a BMB! I have only been writing a few months but I have found this too, I didn’t realise it was a very British thing 🙂 #familyfun

    1. Just my observations, of course. Still, I love how you ladies over there have this blogging thing down to be so much fun, engaging, and purposeful. Creates a great experience for everyone.

  6. I love this! What a wonderfully positive and generous post. I do love the community amongst parent bloggers and how supportive everyone is – I was pleasantly surprised!

    1. Indeed. It’s the community that makes me want to link up every week. Thanks for visiting and commenting.

  7. Oh this makes for a hug in a read!I am smiling at your loveliness ? I only started blogging in February this year and have been lucky enough to find wonderful communities in the blogging world. Have you heard of #tribalchat? You should check us out, we are very welcoming of bloggers from all over the world. Check out mummyinatutu blog to find out more or join us at 8pm on a Tuesday (UK time) for our Twitterchat x

    1. Aww thank you for your generous comment. I have seen other bloggers reference #tribalchat. I’ll take a look. It should be fun to participate given how wonderful the community is. Thanks for visiting and commenting.

  8. Great post! ? I love reading different blogs and enjoy blogs from across the pond and recently have read a few australian blogs (although I had lifestyle envy ?) I wish I was better at the marketing! #FamilyFun

    1. Aussie blogs sound good too. I totally get it about lifestyle envy. Haha..never thought of it that way. I am totally going to use that phrase now.

  9. This is a really sweet post! I have to admit I’m never entirely sure who is from where when I’m reading their blogs, unless there are dead giveaways like talking about shopping at Target or something (there are no Targets in the UK). I’m glad you agree that auto-DMs on Twitter are annoying too! That make me feel really awkward when I get them! #familyfun

    1. Haha…oh the quintessential Target..what would I do without one near me!? I feel so proud of myself when I get references to (little things matter right?) “Tesco” and mentions of tea and biscuits or the words ‘lovely’ and ‘brilliant’…so cool how our cultural nuances slip into our everyday writing

  10. I LOVE this post – I am so pleased to hear how us BMBs are perceived by AMBs. Blogging communities really are so supportive and I am so pleased to be a part of them.

    1. Haha Victoria, not sure if this is the perception of all AMBs, just my observations :).

      I agree, I am loving the blog love.

  11. Totally agree! I’m a British mom blogging from the US and I too follow more Brits. Some of the US linkies are terrible… 300 bloggers posting and running, totally pointless as no one is reading! hahaha. We need to kick team US up the butt!! #FamilyFun

    1. I know what you mean, more or less. I happened to follow the linkup to one blog where you posted all the posts and there was at least a couple hundred and frankly, I was too overwhelmed and wondered who was going to actually read all of these. More importantly, how do I pick (by title alone, I guess) what I want to read and what if I miss some outstanding post just because it did not have a catchy headline. Geez! BTW, I am enjoying reading about your experiences in the US. Also like that you are a writer too.

      1. Lucky for us the Internet is not phased by The Atlantic and we can post away in the UK! If you find a decent US link up let me know! Pretty much the only one I do is momsterlink on domesticatedmomster.com 🙂

        1. Oh I didn’t know about that one. To be quite honest, I only glanced at one or two, don’t even remember the names, and was completely overwhelmed by just how many people had posted. Maybe, you and I should talk more (wink, wink) and see what we can do about that 🙂

  12. This was really interesting, but I am a BMB. I love you’re first point you are so spot on withh that. The blogging community is amazing and nothing but supportive on one another. Oh and we definitely love a kinky but I didn’t realise that was just a British thing. I look forward to hearing about American and Indian bloggers too. Thank you for sharing this at #familyfun xx

  13. Alana - Burnished Chaos says:

    Why a lovely post. I’m a newbie BMB (3 months) and I haven’t had any sponsored posts or brands contacting me and I other than Twitter my follower numbers are still pretty small. That being said, the linkies I join in with have been incredible and have introduced me to an amazingly supportive community as well as bringing traffic and comments my way. I am learning so much from all the other posts that a linked up too. I do take part in an American linky too but I had no idea linkies were predominantly a British thing, it’s really nice to hear this perspective. Can’t wait to read your posts about American and Indian bloggers too, it’s really interesting x

    1. I understand. Sometimes it takes a while. I’m only now getting into the reviews and I’ve been doing this a long time, in the blogging world.
      I agree. Linkys serve such a great purpose in getting comments, traffic, new readership, new ideas, and writers.
      I believe US bloggers do linkys too but the execution is quite different. Thanks a lot for stopping by and commenting.

  14. As a British Mum blogger what a lovely post to read! You are definitely a lovely addition to all the linkys and I too love how supportive our community is. What a great post x #familyfun

    1. Thank you so much for saying that. I feel very welcomed into the British blogging community. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

      1. Not at all – I find your posts very interesting. x

        1. Aww..thanks.

  15. Love this post! Over on this side of the pond we always hear about successful American bloggers, so it is great to get an alternative perspective. The blogging community is the thing that I love the most and we have some really great conferences where we get together to talk all things blogging …… and drink wine together 🙂

    1. Thanks so much. American bloggers are pretty cool too and I do follow some but I never felt a community kind of feeling there. Even though I am an outsider, I just like how welcoming British mom Bloggers have been to my posts.
      Blogging conferences and wine…sign me up (if only distances and costs didn’t matter). Thanks for visiting and commenting.

  16. This has been such a lovely read! But of course as a Brit I know you’re talking directly about ME with my wit, my creativity, my amazing blog! Haha, if only. I look on in envy at those very same blogs. I’m totally new to the blogging world and quickly came across Linkys via Twitter and have discovered a whole world of amazing bloggers and mums who I can relate to. I actually end up reading and commenting on more blogs than doing my own posts just because I love the whole social side of it.
    I’m still discovering new blogs and I’d love to find out more about you as I already love your writing style so don’t freak out if I suddenly start stalking you (in a polite British way of course. Don’t worry I won’t DM you LOL) #stayclassymama

    1. You are too funny. I was smiling throughout the reading of your comment. Thank you so much.
      I think that’s how I found out about linkys too. I know what you mean about the social side. When I first started blogging, way back then (had my first blog in 2003), there was no such thing as a blogging community. I am amazed at how far this platform has come and glad to be a humble little part of the community.
      Following you right back.

  17. love this post – im a british mam but living in Ireland, any my fellow mams in the UK really do have a great community going on #stayclassymama

    1. They sure do. I love how they have it all down so neatly figured out.

  18. As a Canadian mom blogger, I feel the same way as you. I also find myself following mostly mom bloggers from the UK. They are much easier to find! The community of mom bloggers “accross the pond” is very rich and one can’t help but stumble into their world. I often wish we had a community like that over here because I’m often jealous reading about places to far for me to visit and events I’ll probably never get to see. #SharingtheBlogLove

    1. Oh, Canada…I bleed maple syrup when I am not bleeding saffron, white, and green :). Did you see my post about Canadian Thanksgiving?
      I totally know what you mean about the jealous part and wishing we had a community here. At the same time, I am so glad to have discovered British mom bloggers. They seem so much fun. We really need to do something about mom bloggers on this part of the world 🙂

  19. Family Makes says:

    I’m a ‘still relatively new’ (feels that way anyhow!) British Blogger, and I echo your findings. I was really pleasantly surprised by the warm and welcoming community, the amount of support and mutual respect out there among bloggers. Thank you for highlighting it, and if Bridget Jones can manage reading in a British accent, you can too xx #FamilyFun

    1. I am so glad you found this community too. It really inspires me to do and be better just reading all the awesomeness in the British mom blogosphere.
      Awww and thank you for the vote of confidence in my accent. I can do a pretty good American one. In fact, having lived in the US for 16 years, I have to admit the Americanized accent of my English has become a natural and default one. So much so, I have to think to speak with an Indian accent. Strange, huh?

  20. This was such a lovely post to read as a British mummy blogger. Its so interesting so read a US perspective on UK bloggers. I’d never realised that some things like linkies were actually quite a UK centric thing. I’d always assumed they’d evolved out of the US as I had the perception that the blogging market is so much larger and further ahead. I join multiple linkies a week – I think at last count it was around 8/9 and I also host a weekly one called Marvellous Mondays 🙂 Also the point about community I’d definitely agree with, its so lovely to have such a supportive group of parent bloggers to be blogging alongside with. It is such a wonderful community to be part of! Emily #FamilyFun

    1. You know, I am not even really that informed about US linkys. I never really came across them as much as I did with ones from the UK. Then again, I am merely a microscopic fleck in the world of blogging so what do I know? There has to be a massive US blogging world out there that I am somehow oblivious to. Fortunately, I don’t feel like I am missing anything thanks to my BMB community 🙂 Thanks for stopping by.

  21. min1980 says:

    This was really lovely to read. You are right, we do have a lovely community of bloggers and we do help each other out. I second those above who’ve mentioned #tribalchat. Come and join! #StayClassyMama

    1. Another vote for #tribalchat. Now I HAVE to check it out. I am always confused with what time it is there and here. The next time, I remember to just Google the time difference and know when the chat begins, I’ll join in. Thanks for stopping by.

  22. What a lovely positive post to read! I definitely agree with how supportive the blogging community is of each other – it’s such a welcoming community. I’m pleased that on the whole we don’t tend to do the auto DM’s as it’s one thing that drives me mad! I do think linkys are a big part of how the community develops – it’s such an easy way to discover new blogs you love and introduce yourself to other bloggers too. Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    1. Aah the dreaded auto DMs. Suck the joy out of wanting to follow someone! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by.

  23. Wow this is lovely! As a BMB I feel very flattered that you feel this way. I think many of ‘us’ try to be supportive of each other even if we have never met since we are all riding the same roller coaster. There are blogger events that many attend and that’s a good place to put faces to blogs. It is very rare to get negative comments. And yes we really do love a linky! Like you say not only is it a great way to showcase your own blog it’s the easiest way to find new blogs to enjoy. I think, as a general rule, no one in the BMB camps minds where you come from, if you need help, advice, a laugh, a cry there is always going to be someone to help.

    1. You know, I have never attended a blogger event. Perhaps in the future. Linkys really are fun. I really appreciate the welcoming nature of linkys and link hosts. Makes me want to go back every week. Yet, there are so many to choose from. If time is limited, I have to choose which ones to go with. Then again, I always feel like I might be missing out on the others. Thanks for stopping by.

  24. This is great to read! The BMB community is very supportive and I love the fact there are very few people that send auto DM’s, they’re so annoying and generally make me want to unfollow! I love linkups, they’re a great place to find new blogs to read and showcase your own #sharingthebloglove

    1. You’re right on all counts. Thanks for stopping by.

  25. Oh I love this post! Excited to read the one about Americans too (being that I’m originally from San Francisco but I am an honorary BMB blogger ; ) as I had my son here in the UK). I have also noticed how great BMB bloggers are at marketing themselves and getting sponsored posts within a matter of months! The linky idea is genius, whoever started this is awesome and I need to meet them lol. Thanks for sharing with #StayClassyMama!

  26. Oh this is lovely to read. We are a supportive lot on the whole and I definitely think this is what I have come to love the most about blogging. Yes, we do love a linky! There are so many out there, it does seem to be a very british thing. And don’t get me starts on the auto DM!!!! Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  27. […] of “I’m a #FamilyFun Number One” badge goes to… Suchitra from MomLife for Lessons from British Mom Bloggers.  This post is like a really warm hug!  If you haven’t read it I suggest you do!  […]

  28. It’s great to see your thoughts on BMB. You have most of us down perfectly. We are a great community and very caring. Thanks for a great post 🙂 #FamilyFun

  29. I love this! I’m definitely going to have to start following BMB. 🙂

  30. This is lovely to read. As a newbie both at blogging and momming, I was wondering how I could link up with other moms and get support and real honesty from those going through the same or who have gone through it!!
    How do I do the linky?? Xx

    1. Welcome to both, momming and blogging. Linkys can be a lot of fun even as they can be a lot of work to keep up, if you end up doing a lot of them. I usually find out about them via Twitter. Look out for a bunch of blogging moms (or dads) who use the same # and mention their link-ups. Also, if you read a blog post you like, notice if they have badges at the bottom of their posts. These badges are usually required of bloggers participating in linkys. Some of the ones I do are: Familyfun, StayClassyMama, GlobalBlogging, BloggerClubUK, and a few others. I will be starting my own linky soon. Stay tuned and good luck.

      1. Thank you so much! Xx

        1. You’ re welcome.

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