Feelings and Emotions, Growth & Development, Okay mom, Parenting, Years are short

The kids are growing up too fast…ahem…can someone make them grow faster?

The years are short.   Enjoy them while they are still little.   They are only little once.   It gets easier.   Sentiments expressed in the sentences above are simmered into the brains of new parents, particularly the primary caregiving parent since the time people find out about the pregnancy. It becomes an anthem… Read More The kids are growing up too fast…ahem…can someone make them grow faster?

Blog Challenges, Feelings and Emotions, Motherhood, Motherhood lessons, Okay mom, Parenting, Reflections, TJ

Will I ever learn…

…that my child is extremely impressionable and that what I do and how I behave absolutely and directly influences what he then does and how he behaves. …that my yelling may seem like a great release for me but may do irreparable damage to his ability to learn the action-consequence-reaction dynamic. …that my throwing things… Read More Will I ever learn…

Lists, Okay mom, Personal Self, SAHM

Of lists and non-lists; to-dos, will-get-to-its, and one-days

I love making lists. For everything. Lately, however, I have avoided making lists but that experience is more like a mouse who sees cheese and is smart enough to realize that the cheese is purely a tool of entrapment and yet, wonders if she can somehow outsmart the trapping hinge. Hmm..ain’t gonna happen! What I… Read More Of lists and non-lists; to-dos, will-get-to-its, and one-days

Growth & Development, J and E, Motherhood lessons, Okay mom, Parenting, Parenting Stereotypes, San Jose, Things to do with kids, Uncategorized

Concerted Cultivation: What Middle-Class Parents do for their Kids

Note: Using ‘middle-class’ is not my choice of word here. I use it as conceptualized by Annette Lareau in her explanation of the term, ‘Concerted Cultivation’. If popular media, public commentary, and recent articles on parenting are to be believed,  middle-class parents are actively engaged in the lives of their children and nowhere is this… Read More Concerted Cultivation: What Middle-Class Parents do for their Kids

Big Changes, Feelings and Emotions, Motherhood, Okay mom, Personal Self, Professional Self, Reflections, SAHM

I cried. Wasn’t the first time. Won’t be the last.

In my ongoing identity transition or should I more appropriately say, my frustrations with having to morph myself into a reluctant SAHM identity, I have many struggles. Daily. I am just not the stay at home kinds as I have previously written. I am just not made of that grain. I don’t know if I… Read More I cried. Wasn’t the first time. Won’t be the last.

Big Changes, Feelings and Emotions, Motherhood, Okay mom, Reflections, SAHM

First day alone with the kids – Insensitive comments don’t help anybody

Yesterday was B-aunty’s last day which meant today was my first full day with both kids all by myself and it was great. It was uneventful in the most amazing and normal way. I took both kids to a local community park in our Graco double stroller that I bought at a consignment sale (Outrageous… Read More First day alone with the kids – Insensitive comments don’t help anybody

Feelings and Emotions, Health, Motherhood, Okay mom, Post Partum, Reflections, Years are short

“I love my baby but I hate motherhood”

…said one of my colleagues echoing my sentiments exactly and after I had told her how hard these first few months of motherhood have been. I wondered why nobody tells you (read, warns you) about how challenging being a new parent is (I am sure if you specifically go looking for that info, you will… Read More “I love my baby but I hate motherhood”